So I’m driving home from work thinking to myself how happy I am with everything and how things just couldn’t get any better (driving home with a smile on a Monday afternoon has been pretty rare). Now it’s at this very moment I catch myself to stop and think ‘things could always be better’ – never let routine and compliance be misguided for happiness. By no means am I trying to turn anyone into anxious overachievers, nor am I trying to take away from the reward of your accomplishments thus far. However, I always think we should strive for more no matter if you’ve reached all your goals, or if you have the best job in the world – this simply means you have the luxury of time and freedom to be innovative and pursue other passions (in other words make new goals). When you catch yourself in complete content with life take this as an opportunity to check in and push yourself to the next level.
Here’s a little story. My early twenties I was dating and it wasn’t going so well, this one guy was a complete disaster and I just couldn’t understand what I was doing wrong or why I was letting it happen. My friend gave me the following piece of advice “treat yourself like your own best friend. Call yourself and leave a voicemail explaining your situation with this guy, then listen to it and respond as if you were giving the advice to another friend”. This is a little embarrassing but I followed through with her instructions; hearing myself talk and seeing it through the eyes of someone else gave me a new perspective. I began to apply this same sort of technique in my professional life, not necessarily calling myself like a crazy person, but keeping a journal (like this blog) or making a life plan map (I know, ‘it’s so Oprah’) , but hey it works. It keeps you on track, it gives you a perspective that can only be measured by your past and present self.
I think it’s so important you take time to truly check in with yourself, give yourself the privilege of measuring success on your own terms – celebrate the highs and learn from the lows. When I was younger on every birthday I would write myself a letter that I would have to open in 5 years (on my next birthday). I don’t know how I came up with this idea or why I continued to do it, but it’s more than entertaining to read letters from your 8 year old self telling your 13 year old self about your perfect boyfriend, how you want to learn to roller blade, and that you hope your braces have finally come off.
I hope to inspire you to connect with yourself and reflect on your own personal growth and to never misguide compliance and routine for happiness- there is always a next level to reach and a current success to celebrate. Self awareness is one of the most precious gifts you can give to truly embrace who you are and who you will become.
Posted in Career, Personal, Uncategorized
Tagged accomplishment, accomplishments, achievement, aspirations, birthday, career, celebrate, create, drive, freedom, gift, goals, grow, growing, growing up, growth, happiness, inspiration, love, miss tilly, opportunity, personal growth, self awareness, tilly, work
Decided today was a good day to blow bubbles, I caught them in a picture.
“What I like about photographs is that they capture a moment that’s gone forever, impossible to reproduce.”
I recently came back from vacation and along with it a new perspective.
My family and friends flew off to Cuba for my sisters destination wedding. Before we left my sister and her fiancé had asked me if I could do their wedding photos. Here I am learning about shutter speed and aperture settings … trying to take pictures of tree branches and annoying my favorite model, my little kitten Lilly … and within a couple of weeks I would take on a wedding?! – and of all people my sisters. Trust me I felt the pressure, but it is under pressure that I work best. I did everything I could to learn about my new DSLR camera, I created a shots wanted page and thought this is something I love to do, this is a great opportunity and slowly excitement overcame the panic.
I’ve added some of my favorite pictures below (let me know what you think!), I took over 1500 pictures mainly because I was nervous and wanted to make sure I captured each moment, and also because it was my sister and her fiancé – two very important people in my life I did not want to disappoint.
The point I’m trying to make here is that if there is something you love doing don’t be afraid to jump fully into a project that may make you feel in over your head. I understand not everyone likes working under pressure, but take those challenges (aka opportunities) head on and the pay off will be that much greater – you will have a new confidence, a new perspective on your limitations .. if any.
Posted in Personal, Photography, Uncategorized
Tagged bride, camera, cannon, career, create, cuba, destination, destination wedding, drive, dslr, engagement, inspiration, karl lagerfeld, love, marketing, momento moris, motivation, opportunity, photography, picture, quote, quotes, remedios, wedding, work
Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth
– 1 John 3:18
Certain people, whether based on ignorance, narcissism or simply a small mind believe that telling the truth entitles them to some sort of exception. I don’t mean to sound harsh, trust me I’ve tried to rephrase the last sentence, but it just wouldn’t make sense any other way. Truth is not a privilege for another person to hear, nor are you doing them any favor by being truthful, it simply is a necessary institution of any relationship – be it work or personal.
Disclosure: I’m guilty, I’m human. I remember scratching my parents car, telling my dad (and feeling that it would all be okay when I told them) the truth! Here goes: “Dad I scratched the car” … “what do you mean you’re mad at me, at least I told the truth!”…. looking back on this, I realize my rationale didn’t make much sense. The car is still scratched, a large lump sum is still required to fix the damage – who did I think I was to assume that by telling the truth all that goes away?
This post isn’t a rant it’s more so a self-realization I’ve stumbled upon. Please understand that the truth does not make things okay, it does not erase the repercussions of the damage you’ve caused. You are simply holding onto a little bit of dignity, by telling the truth, that comes with the mistake you’ve made.
You don’t owe anyone the truth – it is mandatory.
Posted in Personal, Uncategorized
Tagged beauty, business, dignity, girl, happy, inspiration, love, motivation, quote, selfish, true, truth
**Photo courtesy of moi! First photo with new camera, hope you enjoy.
March 29, 2013
Tagged celebrity, charlie chaplin, desire, funny, legend, life, love, meaning, miss. tilly quotes, quote